Journey to Heaven: Amber's Battle with Cancer, and a Mother's Loss Ep 148| Guest: Patti DiMiceli

 Join host Julia Marie on Evolving Humans as she engages in a heartfelt conversation with Patty DiMicheli, an author, speaker, end-of-life doula, and grief educator.

Patty shares her profound journey, beginning with the discovery of a lump behind her daughter Amber's ear in 1979, leading to a battle against cancer that took them from Connecticut to the Bahamas and Canada.

Through Amber's story, Patty discusses the challenges of the cancer industry, the importance of immunotherapy, and the emotional and spiritual lessons learned from her daughter's life and passing.

 Patty's work now focuses on supporting those at the end of life and educating others on grief and living well.

This episode offers deep insights into life, death, and the enduring power of hope and love.

Many thanks to Pixabay's Leigh Robinson(Nature's Eye) Tokyo Rains Meditation 171316 for providing the music bed for this episode.

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Transcript

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Julia Marie (00:00):
We're going to have a candid conversation about death and dying on evolving humans today. So listener discretion is advised.
Julia Marie (00:12):
Welcome to Evolving Humans, the podcast from Awakening Souls. I'm your host, settle in and get ready for another spirited conversation.
Julia Marie (00:37):
My guest today is author, speaker, end of life doula, brief educator and coach Patty d Kel. When she discovered a small lump behind her daughter Amber's ear in August of 1979, her life was forever changed. The story is chronicled in the book, embrace the Angel, and challenges the notion of death.
Patty works with clients who are living, dying and grieving and listens with an open heart. So I want to welcome you to Evolving Humans. Patty, thank you for spending some time with us today.
Patti DiMicheli (01:15):
Thank you so much, Julie. I really appreciate you having me on, and I'm looking forward to our conversation and hopefully I can inspire and elevate your listeners.
Julia Marie (01:27):
I always ask my guests the same first question, what was it like growing up in Patty's house?
Patti DiMicheli (01:37):
Interesting that you used the word house instead of home because it was pretty much that my home was inside of me. I grew up in a very, very abusive household, and I was connected to the divine knowing that I arrived on this earth as an angel, and that I was connected by a golden thread and the angels on the other
side. That's what kept me safe and protected and moving forward to fulfill my life purpose.
Julia Marie (02:12):
Now you've experienced one of the most devastating losses any parent can, and that's the loss of a child.
And my understanding is that your mission now is to speak about the struggle we all have with living well, but more importantly with dying. Well, can you explain why that is such a challenge for most of us?
Patti DiMicheli (02:35):
Well, I'm an angel in a human cloak, so the human cloak part is very, very difficult for me. We're driven by our five senses, and that's how we pretty much most of us live our lives. The sixth sense in those dimensions beyond the 3D dimension that we don't see with our eyes or smell or hear or touch, that's what
I was connected to. And I am just so blessed that I was, it's tough. I'm not afraid to die because Amber taught me what happens when our bodies die. She said incredible things and I recorded all of them. But to stand out, the first thing she said, she said, mom, I know I'm here to help a lot of people. The second thing
she said totally transformed my life. She said, mom, when I die, I'll still be amber. I'll just be different.
And she was four and a half kids and children especially that I've worked with, they're not afraid to die because they just came from the other side. So when I heard that, I was shocked.
Julia Marie (03:47):
So let's start at the beginning. What happened in August of 1979?
Patti DiMicheli (03:53):
Well, actually it started before she was even born. I had a premonition that I would give birth to a little girl. I actually painted a painting of her before she was born, and then after she came, I heard that I would die before she was six. And so I recorded our life so that she would know me. In August of 79, I was a
single mom. We were renting a room, I was working construction, and I was stroking her hair, and I discovered a lump, a small lump behind her right ear. My first thought was, oh my God, cancer. And then I heard, it's not you who will die, it's amber. And so for the next eight months, I traveled the state of
Connecticut, eight different doctors trying to convince them to biopsy it, and they said, no, it couldn't possibly be cancer. So she fell, hit the bump on a fireplace, and then it doubled in size.
(04:54):
I rushed her to the hospital, and even the night before surgery, they were saying it couldn't possibly be cancer. They excised the tumor and it was cancer in the third stage. And so they gave me three options, basically surgery, chemotherapy, and radiation. She had surgery. I was desperately searching for some cancer therapies. I didn't even know kids got cancer. And this was at the beginning of oncology and
chemotherapy. So it was really in the very beginning of the whole cancer world. So I decided while I was searching, I went to the New Haven Register and asked the editor if they could please publish a story asking the world, are there any other cancer therapies out there that could save her life? And this was
before the pc, the personal computer. So people from all over the world were sending me telegrams and phone calls and letters, and I was sifting through them.
(05:57):
In the meantime, I gave her radiation to the site where they had removed the tumor and she lost all of her hair. And we ended up, we had some help of angels, which was amazing, human angels, and we decided to give her immunotherapy. And since it was not yet offered in the United States, Dr. Lawrence Burton,
who was one of the founders of immunotherapy, he was at St. Vincent's in New York, and he was told that you can't practice here. And so he ended up having to go to Freeport, Bahamas, grand Bahama Island to keep moving forward with immunotherapy. So we flew. We had to kind of sneak out of the country
because we were being in the media. And so we ended up in Freeport and an angel here paid for our time there. Dr. Burton gave Amber the therapy at no cost. And so we arrived in May of 1980 and two weeks after we arrived, he just had a clinic, and so you had to stay in a hotel or an apartment in order to get the
therapy.
(07:09):
So two weeks after we arrived, he was on 60 minutes, and that was on a Sunday. On a Monday morning when I went to the clinic to give Amber's blood, you have to draw the blood. And so I would have to draw Amber's blood every day, take it to the clinic. They would measure protein fractions, which make
up the immune system, and then give me four one cc syringes that I would have to inject into her. Monday morning, I went to bring Amber's blood to the clinic, and there were hundreds of people because it was like a last ditch chance at life. And so I ended up helping draw blood, not only Amber's, but people
right there in line, drawing their blood. And I had a $10 bicycle that we'd brought to The Bahamas and with a little rack on the back, a little blood rack, and I would draw the people where we were staying and then stop at two other apartment complexes and draw their blood to bring 'em all to the clinic.
(08:14):
So we stayed there and the small metastasis that was growing in the site began to flatten, which was amazing, and I have photographs of all this. But then she got tonsillitis and her immune system could not keep up. So the tumor started to grow again, and we needed to get the tumor, basically what they called
debulk, so to remove what they could. But because we had left the country, we couldn't find a surgeon in America that would help us. So Dr. Burton paid surgeons from Montreal, David Stewart, who owned I think five hospitals in Montreal. He flew surgeons to examine Amber, and they agreed to try to save her
life. So we flew up to Montreal for a week and was admitted to the hospital. Dr. Burton gave us a thousand dollars to spend while we were there, and they did try to save her life, the Canadians, and she was off the therapy for a week, and it had doubled again in size.
(09:19):
So we flew back to Freeport and desperately were searching for a surgeon to please help us. Dr. Bernie Siegel stepped forward and said, Patty, I will treat her as my own. And he assembled a team of surgeons at St. Ray's Hospital in New Haven, and we flew back there, stayed for a week. Bernie tried to save her
life and in the end, could not save her life. I was in the gift shop. I was standing in line and I heard turn around. Amber was doing some tests, so I wanted to get her something. I heard the words turn around. I turned around and I saw this rack of big golden keys, and I heard give this to Amber and tell her it's the
key to heaven so that she can open the golden gates when she gets here. And so we brought her home. She knew she was dying.
(10:18):
She wasn't afraid. We talked about it often, and she picked out the clothes. She wanted to go to heaven. In midnight, we sang Happy Birthday to me because it was my birthday, and a few minutes later, she slipped into a coma and we brought her down to the sofa. I was recording everything, and I started to tell her how
much I loved her and thank you for coming to Earth to show me love and got the best buns in town and everything I wanted her to know. I said, and as I'm talking with her, tears started to come down her eyes,
and I wiped him away. And I knew that she wasn't afraid to die, but she was afraid to leave me behind.
And so then a lot of tears came down and I wiped him away and said, Amber, I'll be okay. I'll be okay,
Amber.
(11:16):
Go now. Be with God. Be with God, Amber. And as soon as I said these words, Julia, she stopped breathing and I physically felt her leave her body pass through mine and return to the light. It was like a vibrating, goosebumps times a million. Every cell of my body was vibrating. It was a warm, loving light.
And from that moment on, I realized that she was right. She would never leave me. She would simply change. And Amber's here now, she's always been with me, and for that, I'm so blessed to be given a gift to know what happens when our body dies and to actually physically feel it. I mean, had I not transcribed
it for the book and have an audio recording of it, it probably would've just slipped into history. Butbecause I was led and guided by the divine to record everything, I mean this miracle has helped so many.
Like Amber said, I know I'm here to help a lot of people, but this miracle has helped so many people around the world and given them hope and comfort.
Julia Marie (12:37):
Thank you for giving us the overview of the story. I'd like to dig into a couple of areas with you, if you don't mind. Sure. Now, you went into detail about the battle you waged on Amber's behalf, and you started where most people do, and that's with the established cancer machine, and what did you learn about that world?
Patti DiMicheli (13:09):
Yeah, that's a tough one. Despite the miracle that I had with Amber, the human part of me was enraged. I was beyond enraged. I was so enraged at the cancer industry, the chemical, the petrochemical, the pharmaceutical. I was so enraged that it was buried. I just didn't know it. I mean, it's too late to stop
cancer as far as when you get it. I think our hope is in prevention, but since we now know that chemicals cause cancer, it's chemicals and our own human body's immune system, we can't withstand the onslaught.
How do you get rid of chemicals? In our world? They're everywhere. So I do think our hope lies in boosting our immune system and that in a huge part of that now in today's world that we're enduring, including myself, is stress and anxiety. I mean, cortisol, the adrenaline running through our veins. That's horrible for our immune system.
Julia Marie (14:15):
You're making some suggestions there that there are things we can do. We can clean up our diet, we can clean up our environment. We can be more discerning about what we put in and on our bodies, and maybe we learn how to cope with the anxiety and the stress through breathing or meditation or
mindfulness or any of those other tools that are available to us. It's not like we're helpless. We just need to take action.
Patti DiMicheli (14:46):
Absolutely.
Julia Marie (14:47):
Well, you spoke a little bit about the underground therapy scene. What did you eventually conclude about why people can't find out more information about alternatives to the traditional radiation chemotherapy surgery?
Patti DiMicheli (15:07):
Okay, well, let me speak plainly. Money, money in all caps, bold italicized with bunches of exclamation points. After it, money, it's profits like chemotherapy was just starting, and that's one of the reasons I didn't give it to Amber. Even then I thought, oh my gosh,
Julia Marie (15:28):
Chemicals poison
Patti DiMicheli (15:30):
Well, and even now they're using people as Guinea pigs. They're experimenting basically. It is very, very, very sad. It is extremely sad. The other thing is a huge factor, and we're experiencing that today, especially in the political environment. You need, in order to control people, you need to keep them
ignorant, separated and afraid. And if you can keep that going, if you can convince people that they don't know, you do that authority and you keep 'em separate. So any connections are like, you don't want people to connect and afraid. You keep people living in fear and you can pretty much do what you want with them.
Julia Marie (16:24):
It's sad but true. Now, you briefly talked about Dr. Burton's work, and if I understand it correctly, his whole thrust was about giving the immune system what it needed to do battle with whatever it was fighting, and it's not just for cancer, it would be for pretty much anything that the immune system would
have to fight. Is that correct?
Patti DiMicheli (16:55):
That's my understanding. Dr. Burton still has his clinic. He's now on the other side. He's dead. But Dr. Clement is, I think, still alive. I have contacted him in the past several years, but in the medical industry and the scientific research industry, I mean, there's a lot of competition. I mean, it's sort of like kids in a
school yard sometimes, not with all, and believe you me, there are so many people dedicated passionately to saving lives and improving things, but there are also people that are not aligned with that and simply want a name or lots of money or recognition or whatever. I do think, though, that immunotherapy is our
brightest hope.
Julia Marie (17:43):
Yeah, I was wondering what your viewpoint would've been about his protocol. It just seemed to me it's the purest form of helping the body heal itself. The body is pretty miraculous as an instrument anyway.
And so what's your work look like now? The work that you do?
Patti DiMicheli (18:10):
Yeah. Well, I'm an end of life doula, so I'm an end of life doula and a grief educator and coach. I'm a life coach as well, certified life coach, and I work a lot with private clients that I love. It's so nice to be able to look into somebody's eyes as they're like 96 and just see them and share their memories and just enjoy that part of their life. I love, love, love, just sharing angels with people. So that's my passion. I also am
very, very passionate about educating people. I love it. And I work a lot, as I said, with young people.
Julia Marie (18:57):
Well, and at least you're at a place where you know that the sharing of the lessons that you've learned can help keep somebody else from going down that same road or maybe falling so hard.
Patti DiMicheli (19:12):
Yeah, you're absolutely right. Julia, what would my human life be? Not to mention my angelic purpose for being on earth, but if not to share the life lessons I've learned so many of us lightworkers here on earth, if you see somebody fall, you're not just going to watch them suffer. You're going to go over and help 'em. And there's a lot of lightworkers. There's more lightworkers on this earth at this time than there are people that are choosing the dark. It's a choice,
Julia Marie (19:53):
And I would agree with you. I do feel like we've kind of, we've rounded the corner and we might actually be able to pull this one out of the fire if we keep putting one foot in front of the other. I want to thank you, Patty, for sharing ember's story with us, and I'd like to ask if you have any final message for the listeners today.
Patti DiMicheli (20:27):
Yes, I do. There's a beautiful quote by George Isle that hope is faith holding out its hand in the dark, and in this world that we're living right now, it's getting increasingly darker. So please, please do not give up hope. Just stay open to receive, keep your heart open and allow the love, the hope, the joy, the promise to
be fulfilled in our human life.
Julia Marie (21:06):
Well, it is always darkest. Before the dawn, before we close, I'd love for you if you could please Patti, tell the people how they can connect with you.
Patti DiMicheli (21:19):
Yeah, so there's different ways, but if you go to Patti Dima, P-A-T-T-I-D-I-M-I-C-E-L i.com, that links to Tobias and Company, and you can also go to embrace the angel.com one, angel and Tobias and Company
all spelled out. So yeah, we have a lot of free resources. We would love, love, love. When I say we, I mean me and the angels. We would love for you to visit. So
Julia Marie (21:50):
There's nothing wrong with using we to describe you and your nonphysical cohort. I do it all the time. So there you go. Well, I just want to thank you again, Patty, for being here with us today and sharing your and Amber's story with us.
Patti DiMicheli (22:12):
Thank you so much, Julia. I very much appreciate the time because in the end time is our most precious resource. So thank you for your time and the time of your listeners. Thank you so much.
Julia Marie (22:26):
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