A New Perspective on Grief and the Gifts It Can Bring Us - Pt 2 Ep 138 | Guest: Helen Morris

Certified Emotion Code and Body Code practitioner Helen Morris returns to continue our conversation about the beautiful side of grief, the potential for healing, and the role of an energy healer.

Helen discusses her role in helping others heal, emphasizing that she serves as a facilitator or conduit, not the one doing the healing. She also shares her personal experiences with grief and loss, and how these experiences have shaped her approach to helping others.

We discuss the importance of allowing individuals to process grief in their own time and way, without judgment. Helen also talks about her podcast, "The Beautiful Side of Grief," which aims to provide comfort and clarity to those dealing with loss.

She introduces a new resource she has developed called "Letter of Hope and Aroha," which offers a new perspective on grief and aims to help individuals navigate their grief journey.

Our inspiring and transformative conversation continues!

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Transcript

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Julia Marie (00:00):
We continue our conversation with Helen Morris. We learn that loss is experienced in different ways as Helen shares the story of the sudden passing of another important person in her life. Welcome to Evolving Humans, the podcast for Awakening Souls. I'm your host, Julia Marie. Settle in and get ready for another
spirited conversation. So I am assuming that now you as a certified emotion code and body code= practitioner, you use these modalities to help other people.
Helen Morris (00:56):
I do, but I'm very low key about it because I used to do work on so, so many people, right? It's like a kid with a new toy. You want to show it off to everyone, but not everyone is at that level where they're ready to get their head around you release stuff from them energetically. People still think you need pills and
potions or manipulation to feel better. And so I guess the biggest learning is that when people need this, they come find me. And when they come and find me, I know they're ready. And when I know they're ready, then they can have magical things also happen in their life. And I can do remote this remotely so I
don't have to have people in front of me. And I often, most of my clients are overseas and I have people coming back.
(01:58):
They'll have a session and then they'll come back to me 12, 18 months later for something else. And it's beautiful. And I keep saying to them, look, you can do this yourself. You know how to do this yourself now. And they go, no, no, no, but still want you to do it. So that's the other thing is that I am a conduit for
this energy coming through me to helping others. So I don't think I am the one healing people. This is coming from a higher source. And so I'm really very respectful of that. And so I want to actually pass this on to others so that they can heal themselves. So I don't want to be the one that people have to come to. I
want them to experience it, understand it, and then be able to do it themselves. So I'm not very good at, I'm not a very savvy business person because I actually end up with clients being able to do this themselves. But I like it that way. I believe that I was gifted this, and so I like serving other people and being able to pass the mental on. And yes, yes,
Julia Marie (03:18):
You do healing work, but you used a term that I also like to tell people, even though the label on the website is energy healer, I make a clear point. I'm not the one doing the healing. I refer to myself as a facilitator or a conduit, just like you said, because the energy, my job is to flow the energy. It's up to the
person what they're going to do with it.
Helen Morris (03:50):
Absolutely. And that is everyone has free will. And so often I find that, and I understand this from my own experiences, and this is the value of going through so many experiences and challenges, is that you understand it yourself. You get those ding ding moments. And I understood that when I was going from
healing modality to healing modality, I hadn't learned the value of taking responsibility for my own healing, and I didn't understand the impact of what I had experienced and how that impacted on my body.
And so I was looking for people to take the pain away. The pain was multilayered and very deeply embedded. And once I understood that, I then understood, well, this is not going to just be a one-off fix.
Actually, this is going to be a long process over a long time. But when you get those big wins, it's easy just to keep that journey going.
(05:09):
And now, when I am in the other seat helping other people, because I've been through so many experiences myself, I don't sit in judgment because I understand that that is their path to experience what they've experienced. And my role is when they're ready, is to help them release that. But that is purely
what my role is. It's not to place any judgment. It's not to tell them how to do it, when to do it, and what time frame they choose that themselves. And that's a beauty of getting to this place, of being able to do this work. As you would find yourself, Julia,
Julia Marie (06:02):
Honor the process and everybody's process is going to be different.
Helen Morris (06:07):
Yes, yes. And I always am a great believer that you're guided to the people you need in your life at that particular time. And so we don't always understand initially at the time why we needed to go through that modality or why we needed to see those people. But down the line you go, ah, that's why they were in my
life. That's why I needed to see that person. It's just like stepping stones. You just are putting one stepping stone in front of another on this journey. And what I've learned is that really I'm here to be love, really to receive love, to give love to emanate love, and not to sit in judgment of anyone, not success. I believe I'm
more successful in facing what I've experienced than actually saying, I am this, I am that. And I actually find myself decluttering my whole entire world. The older I get, the more I let go, and the more I come back to what is truly important, which is the basics. It's community. It's serving others because that's the
best feeling ever. And it's just living life with peace and love and happiness. I really sound converted. I
Julia Marie (07:53):
Convert. That's okay. Now, your life seemed to be in a pretty good place, and then you experienced a second tragedy, the loss of a new partner. What happened?
Helen Morris (08:09):
Oh my gosh. I thought losing your only child was enough to turn your life upside down and on. Its, but I had more or less been on my own for 20 plus years, and then I really felt ready for a relationship. So I did a lot of work on myself to prepare myself for a relationship. I wanted to understand what makes a good
relationship. I wanted to not go down the path of previous relationships that hadn't served me. I didn't want to go there anymore. I was past that. So I really wanted the next relationship. I entered into be that beautiful, supportive, loving, caring environment, two-way street. And so I was working at a private
hospital and I got talking to this anesthetic tech, and we used to just talk. And then one day we decided to go out for a coffee. And it just progressed beautifully and naturally like that.
(09:22):
But we didn't want anybody at work to know that we were going out together until we knew what we had together. So we just pretty much kept it under wraps. But it was so natural. It was so beautiful. When you meet that person where you don't worry about what you look like, you don't worry about anything. You
just want to be in their company and you just want to listen to them, and you have these beautiful conversations and you're so much richer together. Well, that's what it was like. It just felt so effortless.
And then we'd only been four weeks into that relationship, and he'd planned this beautiful camping trip where it was going to a fantastic part of the world that is hidden. Not very many people go to, and its nature, it's nature in its finest rivers, hiking waterfalls in the middle of nowhere.
(10:29):
And he was going to spend nine days there. And unfortunately, on the first night that he was there, his life got taken by another young guy that was part of a group that was staying there. And I knew on the day it happened. I woke up that morning and I was so out of sorts thinking about it, and I knew, but I didn't trust
myself. I thought, because it's a new relationship, I thought, oh, maybe he changed his mind, or you know what? And I thought, no, don't worry about it. Just talk about it when he gets back and we'll sort it whatever out then. And because there was no cell phone coverage there, I couldn't even phone to find out.
So then I actually found out a couple of days later because nobody knew about us, you see? So I certainly wasn't being a person that was going to be contacted.
(11:29):
And I found out through my boss, who let me know that a beautiful colleague had had his life taken. And honestly, my heart broke all over again into a million pieces. I just felt so unfair. Why gift me this perfect relationship after so long to snatch it away from me so quickly? I hadn't even had a chance to get any
traction, real traction around it. And then this is again, how the universe works. So prior to that, I had arranged a hookup with my beautiful girl in the afterlife through a medium. So I had booked that prior, and this was happening a week after Adrian had passed. And I didn't expect him to come through because
I know how difficult it is for souls to come down into our frequency to connect. And so he came through, came with Dar, both of them came through together, and I was going, what the heck? And so I knew right off the get go what had happened.
(12:54):
And it was as I suspected and felt, and he said something to me. He said, I needed to meet you and to get to know you and experience this time with you so I could know unconditional love, so that when I transitioned, I knew what I was going into. Wow. I went, no way. I didn't even realize that that's what I
was giving him. And he said, that was so powerful. And I also then thought, what did I get from this? And so what I took away from this relationship was that at my age where I'm very close to hitting 60, that after a lifetime of being on my own, I can still meet somebody beautiful. If they are meant to be in my life,
then I'm going to trust that this was not the only opportunity. And so I decided to look at it like that. But what it also did was it highlighted for me those areas of grieving that I hadn't done for TI was so busy looking after her teenage friends and people around me that sometimes I hadn't allowed myself to fully
just let go. And doing it that length of time several years later was a different kind of letting go. It wasn't losing control, it was just allowing myself to really out those deep, deep losses and heartache that I was feeling. So it was, again, the most heartbreaking, but the most enlightening of
Julia Marie (15:10):
Experiences. In some ways, his passing was a gift
(15:17):
To help you move through. That never ceases to amaze me how the spirit world is able to make those connections when the time is exactly right. I quickly let go of any preconceived notion of how long it takes a soul on the other side to make that connection. When I had a young woman come sit at my table at
a show I was doing, and she was very calm outwardly and everything, and I asked her how I could be of service, and she said she wanted a mediumship reading. So I said, okay, tell me. Let me see who's there.
And immediately this young man showed up that I knew was somebody that was to her side. Turns out it was her husband. She was a young wife with young children. So I proceeded with the communication, and then at the very end, I said to her, this just seems to me like this is so fresh. I didn't know how else to
say it. This passing is very recent, and this was a Saturday. She came to sit at the table and what she said to me was, well, he died pretty much in the way that you described on Wednesday.
Helen Morris (16:52):
Wow. That close after.
Julia Marie (16:55):
And that was very early on in my mediumship path. So from that day to this, I don't set any kind of parameters on how long a person needs to wait before they make an appointment. They just need to understand that they must also do their grieving, that whatever message they receive is to help them with
that process. It's not to be a substitute for it, but he came through as clear as I'm talking to you.
Helen Morris (17:29):
I 100% agree with it, Julia, because I explained about tile and I felt it so strongly and I knew, but the thing what I had to do, which is what a lot of people end up doing, is that you can't talk about this as openly. I think it's getting better. I think people are more understanding these days. But even just seven years ago, it
was like people were making excuses for what I was feeling or what I had experienced. And I was going, no, I'm not making this up because I wanted to be. This is what I felt. This is what I experienced. And I can feel her. She comes into my chest, into my heart. She's such a heart centered being, and you can't fake
that or you can't make that up. And how did I know what I knew? It was like she guided me to know or to fill in the gaps. So yes, I agree with you.
Julia Marie (18:39):
Well, it's almost like a soul to soul hug, like she's blending her soul with yours and it's making me well up. Just thinking about that.
Helen Morris (18:59):
Can I share with you a quick story please, of what she was like? So she was this feisty, sassy, she'd come back. She'd never just take everything at face value. She would challenge you. And she quite often challenged me. And so if I was really upset with her because she'd done something and I'll go, no child,
I'm just going to go to bed and I'll talk to you about this another time. And she would go up and she would stand in front of my bedroom doorway and she would say, no, you're not going to bed until you give me a hug and tell me you love me. And I'd go, TI am really cross with you. Don't do this now, just
let me. And she go, no. And she would insist until I actually gave her a hug and made it okay. And the old saying, never go to sleep on an argument or in anger or anything like this.
(20:07):
And that was a beautiful spirit. She was, how many teenagers do you know that are just like that? And this is what my work colleagues used to say that she was way beyond her years because she would, I had a beautiful pharmacist I worked with who was past retirement age, and she said, I don't know of many
teens that would come down and speak to somebody like myself just off the bat without any encouragement. And that's what T would do. And she was just this beautiful, beautiful shining light. So how lucky was I am I, and the other thing I want to point out too is that I had a knowing that if I had
chosen this as part of my soul contract, then she had also chosen that. And we had decided that together.
And I also had a deep knowing that she was going to die in a motor vehicle accident as a teenager, because I used to have the most bizarre reactions to hearing about teenagers dying. And I would think, how on earth can that parent cope or those parents cope with losing their teenager? And this was even
before I had tile. And then I knew that on some deep subconscious level, I was preparing myself for this.
Julia Marie (21:39):
In many ways, that would be, in retrospect, a gift to be able to see that you did see this coming, even though you weren't consciously aware of it. I want to just touch on your podcast because I think it's great, not just because you invited me on, but just because it's great.
Helen Morris (22:00):
Thank you.
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Julia Marie (22:01):
What inspired you to start the podcast?
Helen Morris (22:06):
So this is a thing about when life cracks you open and you get guided on these paths that you have no choice, no say in. It's just like, this is what you're going to do. And look, I wouldn't have chosen to put myself out there and speak publicly to people through a podcast. I knew nothing about podcasts. I spent
three months educating myself and setting it up. So it had really good foundations. I didn't want it to topple over, and I had no idea what I was in for. But I desperately, on some level, not desperately, but on some level, I knew that I wanted to share with the world that grief can be heartbreaking, but equally it can
be beautiful as well. There are many gifts that come from these grief experiences in whichever way they manifest. And so I wanted to interview people who had been at the coalface themselves and to had experienced life-changing moments and experiences and what their learnings were from those
experiences that they could be these confident, beautiful, positive, well-adjusted people after facing the worst of the worst.
(23:43):
And so that's what motivated to do my podcast in that way. And the beautiful side of grief just came to me. It was just, this is what I need to call it. Because most people, if they're not aligned with that, they won't listen to it. But those who are, what is this all about? How can grief be beautiful? Let's just take a
listen. Well, then they can find that person, that connection that resonates with them and go on their own journey to finding their own beautiful grief. So that's kept me going. I've done just over just close on 130 podcast episodes. And so it is, as you will know, a labor of love because it is not easy. It is a lot of work
involved in this, especially if you don't have a team around you. And yes, and t she always tells me, you don't think you get these guests on their own, do you, mama?
(24:50):
She goes, I'm behind the scenes directing them to you, because I remember I made the mistake once of saying about me doing this podcast on my own solo. And she came into the guest and said, what the heck? She's not doing this by herself. I'm with her. And so I laughed because that was so tall, and this
lady hid it on the nail when she said that. And so now I just go, yeah, we are a teen baby. And yeah, I'm grateful. I'm really grateful to have this opportunity. It doesn't make me a lot of money. It doesn't make me any at all, but it's helping people all over the world. So to me, that always fills my heart
Julia Marie (25:43):
Well, and that's the most important point here. It's the difference you're making and who knows when some person in need of some kind of comfort or clarity is going to click on this podcast named the Beautiful Side of Grief and be helped or comforted by somebody's story because our loved ones have a way of guiding their surviving people to find what it is they need to help them with that grieving process.
At least that's something I've found to be true.
Helen Morris (26:27):
And just before we went on air, you and I were just having a quick chat and we were talking about guests.
And I just want to mention that I feel that connection when I receive that email or that request and that I feel that energy, and I know that this is going to be a good person. And even if their story doesn't always quite align, I trust, I trust that maybe there's something they haven't told me that when we start talking,
that's going to be the gold nugget or gold nuggets that how about a listener? And I always go back to remember speaking to a guy about his experiences of his wife having multiple miscarriages and his perception from a male perspective.
(27:30):
And I just went, wow, I just had no idea that you would feeling like you had somehow or you were somehow responsible for this and why you were taking that on board. And that was just such a male thing as a protector for him to be doing. And it was a no brainer for him yet actually it was out of his control
what was happening. And I just think how many men are going to be able to listen to that? Because often they're missed out of that equation. They're not often talked about or included. It's mostly the women we hear from. So I was just so incredibly grateful for having that story and all the many, many others that I just meet the most beautiful people like yourself,
Julia Marie (28:32):
Likewise, wise, mutual admiration society. Yeah. You've developed a new resource that I would like you to talk about. You call it a Letter of hope and aroha, this resource for, and how does it help them?
Helen Morris (28:57):
Well, it's a letter of hope in Otha has been on my mind for several years, and it's a letter or a series of letters that gets sent out as A-P-D-F-I email. But initially I was just going to use it as a go-to heartful resource to help people transition through their grief and see a beautiful side to it. And then as I started to
develop it, I had something happened where I was off work, and that was the timing. It was like, now you're going to do this. Now you're going to develop these letters. But then I was also guided to write my own voice and from my own experiences, mix those into with all the scientific info as well to help people.
But it keeps it at grassroots level so that everybody can relate to the information that I'm telling them about. And these were the key things that helped me to see a beautiful side to my grief experiences.
(30:10):
And when I experienced Adrian's death, I went through the same process. It was things like gratitude that kept me anchored, kept me going, kept me being grateful for what I had in the here and now. And I always thought I knew about gratitude. I thought I was a grateful person. I thought I practiced gratitude,
but when I really did practice it, it changed my life profoundly in ways I couldn't imagine. So it was incredible. So that's what I offer people in each letter is a different theme, and they could take or leave the information as befits their circumstances and experiences. I'm not telling people how to do their grief.
That is entirely their journey. But what I want to be able to do is to support those people, go on a journey with them for eight weeks and let them know that they are not alone, that there are people who understand what they're going through, that there are ways that you can help yourself not be in that constant well of
darkness and despair, that you can introduce the light and not feel guilty about that, and you can allow that into your life and let it guide you.
(31:46):
So I think I haven't seen anything out there like it, so I think I'm sort of breaking new ground in some way, but I just have made it this resource that is, I believe, extremely affordable and helps people think about things that they perhaps haven't thought of before in relation to grief and help them just see a
different perspective to their grief. Yeah, so I'm very excited. And it's beautiful too. I love beautiful things. So I have made it a letter, and I've really carefully chosen wonderful photographs to put in there and the layout and everything. I've really thought long and hard about this, so it carries my heart with it.
So yeah, that's just a new resource that I've developed.
Julia Marie (32:53):
Well, and I appreciate that you took the words right out of my mouth and said, you're providing a new perspective on what grief is and what it can bring in a positive way to our lives if we're open to it
Helen Morris (33:08):
Because there are no accidents. And as much as we wish our loved ones right back beside us physically, that's never going to happen. So let's try and find why this happened, how we can think about it, what's beautiful about it, and understand that our loved ones are with us. They're just in a different form. They're
just in an energetic form, but they are with us. And that's why I was gifted this experience with TA was to open me up to that and to know. And if I can know that, then everybody else can know that as well. And we've just been conditioned that grief has to look a certain way. And I'm saying, throw that out with the
bath water. We don't need that anymore. We can choose. We choose everything else in our life. We can choose how our grief looks for ourselves.
Julia Marie (34:12):
Staying in that deep well lowers your vibration. And a lower vibration makes it harder for your loved ones to make the connection. So anything that a person could use or explore, like your letter of hope would be a way to possibly pull them out of that, lift their vibration, and thus make them more available
to connecting with their loved ones.
Helen Morris (34:46):
And I think people think, oh, I know about this stuff, but they know about it. But are they putting it into practice? And are they getting the benefits of that practice? Because if they were, then they would know how life changing it is. And so yeah, that's what I just want people to have an open mind and know that
this is a totally different way, because I think grief therapists and counselors and those wonderful people are correct. But I also believe that, as I mentioned earlier, we are our own biggest healers. We can heal from within. We just need a bit of a roadmap to know how we can do that. And that's what I want to offer
people. A bit of a roadmap.
Julia Marie (35:45):
Well, I'm in alignment with that. So we've come to the end of our time, but before we go, please share how the audience can connect with you.
Helen Morris (35:58):
So all they need to do really is plug in the words of the beautiful side of grief, and that is going to connect with me. So my website is https slash the beautiful side of grief.com, and my Instagram is the beautiful side of grief. So everything is, if you just want to go find me, just put the beautiful side of grief in and you'll be on your way to discovery more about me,
Julia Marie (36:33):
And I'll certainly put all those links in the show notes. So I just want to thank you for this wonderful conversation, for the insight and the wisdom that you shared, and the story of your beautiful daughter and your journey from loss to embracing all that life has to offer. So thank you for showing up today,
Helen Morris (37:00):
Julia, I am just so appreciative of you giving me this opportunity and giving me this time and just being so open to this information and sharing it with so many others. What you're doing is a gift to the world.
And yeah, I'm just so grateful for that. Thank you. Well,
Julia Marie (37:22):
Ditto. Well, that's our time for today. Thank you for continuing to support this podcast with your downloads and subscriptions. If you benefited from this episode, please share the link with someone in
your circle so that together we can bring more light to the world. If you want to connect with a loved one on the other side, please go to my website, Julia marie.us, and click the book now button on the homepage. And now here's a quote for you to ponder as you go about your day. We do not have to rely on
memories to recapture the spirit of those we have loved and lost. They live within our souls in some perfect sanctuary, which even death cannot destroy. Nan Whittcomb