Is There a Beautiful Side of Grief? Pt - 1 Ep137 | Guest: Helen Morris

Your host, Julia Marie, is joined by Helen Morris, a certified emotion code and body code practitioner from New Zealand and host of the popular podcast The Beautiful Side of Grief.

Helen shares her journey of healing and self-discovery after the tragic loss of her 18-year-old daughter in a car accident. She discusses her difficult childhood, the development of chronic illnesses due to unprocessed trauma, and her spiritual beliefs.

Helen also talks about her strong bond with her daughter, who she believes was an old soul and continues to communicate with her after her death. This experience led Helen to shed societal expectations and fully embrace energy healing and spirituality.

The conversation ends with a discussion on the power of self-healing and the importance of releasing emotional baggage to realign the body.

You won't want to miss this inspiring conversation about resilience and spiritual growth.

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Transcript

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Julia Marie (00:00):
How can we ever continue living after the loss of a child or other loved one? Today, a look at the beautiful side of grief. Welcome to Evolving Humans, the podcast for Awakening Souls. I'm your host, Julia Marie. Settle in and get ready for another spirited conversation. Helen Morris is a certified emotion code and body code practitioner based out of ROT, New Zealand. She discovered this healing modality
after tragically losing her 18-year-old daughter and only child in a motor vehicle accident in 2017. She is the host of the beautiful side of Grief podcast where she shares many incredible stories of how others have overcome grief to find their true north. Welcome to Evolving Humans. Helen, it's so good to speak with you again, and I'm looking forward to our conversation.
Helen Morris (01:18):
And I am as well. Julia, it's so lovely to be back speaking with you again and to speaking to your listeners this time rather than my listeners, and it's such a pleasure to be with you.
Julia Marie (01:31):
I usually start with an origin story question, so let's begin there. What was it like growing up in Helen's house?
Helen Morris (01:43):
Oh my gosh. Wow. It was a home that I never felt that I belonged in or fit into. So right from the get-go, I felt a misfit and I was very, very sensitive. However, I didn't know about highly sensitive people until much, much later in my life. I just knew that I could feel people's energy. I knew when people were angry
and cross and I just could read situations. And so growing up, I just really felt like I didn't belong. I didn't know where I belonged. And so that sort of really, really influenced my self-confidence, my self-worth and all of those things. So I became a very overachiever, I became an overachiever, a perfectionist. I would try and do everything to the nth degree to try and be acknowledged to try and have people like me, all of those traits wrapped up that a lot of highly sensitive people go through and experience. So yeah, so it was a tough childhood and it was really traumatic. So I think in my early twenties, I actually developed
some chronic illnesses and I now understand that I developed those so early in my life because of all the stress and trauma that I had been through,
Julia Marie (03:16):
And it was probably unprocessed. So it's got to get processed somehow. And your poor body ended up taking a hit.
Helen Morris (03:25):
Yeah, it certainly did. And that is where after I'd been through the medical system for a number of years, I realized that actually I was not getting any better. I was going through medication after medication, nothing was helping. So that's when I started into my foray into holistic medicine and health, and you
name it, I've probably tried it, but I just knew, I just knew that this was not the way I wanted to be living. I was a extremely sporty child growing up, really fit and active. And it was almost like overnight I became this person that couldn't get out of bed, struggled with my thought processes, never really felt well, and I just had a myriad of symptoms that people just didn't know how to deal with. Yeah. So I
learned without learning really, that I needed to be the one taking responsibility for me. And I truly, now that I'm so much older, I'm so grateful that I went on that journey and that sort of just probably as I was right on that cusp of really being into holistic health, I have my beautiful girl. So I was an older mom. I
was 35 when I had her, and she just rocked my world. She came in with a bang. I wasn't expecting to fall pregnant, and I did. And then I had this dynamic, feisty, beautiful, larger than life, gorgeous girl. And she also provided lots of learning in my life.
Julia Marie (05:18):
I always say, our children are our greatest teachers. So what was it like raising her?
Helen Morris (05:27):
Wow, Tal, she was like right from the get go. I knew that she was an old soul. She had a knowingness about her. She was sitting upright at two weeks old without my hand on her back. And I was going, oops, where did you come from? And she just had this old soul in a young body, and I often had to remind her
that I was actually the parent because, but actually when I reflect back on what some of the lessons she was teaching me, perhaps I should have let her be the parent, but she was a child that just was on the go nonstop. At 18 months, I spent a stint in hospital and my sister didn't bring her up to visit me during that
time, and I think that was really, really traumatic for her. She'd never been away from me. And so that actually, it was a couple of weeks. So those couple of weeks, she really fretted and she developed night terrors from that. And so she had night terrors from about 18 months through to seven and a half. And oh gosh, they were challenges. And then at three,
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We had just shifted across to UA from Papua, and she developed Embar syndrome, so she became paralyzed. So then we had to go through that whole process, and by that stage I was on my own raising her. So it was challenging times, but I just trusted the process and I just allowed this beautiful, feisty girl just to be herself. And we grew together and I did a lot of apologizing. I got a lot of parenting wrong, and all she wanted was me to be fair. And once I understood that, then we just developed this beautiful relationship and that relationship grew and I ended up having the most incredible teenage years with this gorgeous girl.
Julia Marie (07:51):
What was your spiritual life at this time in your life?
Helen Morris (08:00):
I had always been interested in spirituality, but I've been on the fringes of it. So I would occasionally go and see clairvoyance or mediums and try and get some direction in my life that seemed out of control and just have some hope. And I believed I wasn't religious. So my family actually sort of put the kibosh on
that from a very early age because my father's side of the family was Catholic, my mother's was Presbyterian, we were baptized Presbyterian. So my father, when my mother and father split up when I was six, my father's side would not have anything to do with us. They wouldn't recognize us. And I thought, well, if that's what religion is all about, I'm not having a bar of it. And so I didn't considered
myself an atheist, but I never really was. I always believed in something greater that there was something more out there. I did believe in the afterlife. And so my foray into that just kept developing over time, especially as I went through a lot of holistic modalities like sound dealing and reiki, and because I believe
that that was coming from a higher source. And so it was like a knowing without knowing. And I say that a lot of my life I've had a knowing without knowing, which has guided me to where I am today.
Julia Marie (09:41):
Well, that's the part of us that's actually driving the bus that we don't always listen to. Yes, we try to drive in a different direction.
Julia Marie (09:54):
Now, you lost your beautiful daughter at a pretty young age, and will you please talk about that
experience and the impact it had on you?
Helen Morris (10:09):
Wow. Yes. So she had just turned 18 and we were in a fantastic place in our lives. I was just in awe of this beautiful person that had taken on adulthood by the horns. She was leading the way. She was taking
responsibility for all aspects of her life, but she was a fun kid as well. So there was always lots of fun in there as well. And so I was enjoying not having to be her parent where we could just really just enjoy
each other. If she needed my opinion on something, she could ask for it. Otherwise, I was excited to see where her life was going because I thought it was going to go somewhere spectacular and then bang out
of the blue at age, she was about just over 18 and a half, she had a car accident and was killed instantly.
And wow, it was like my whole life blew wide open.
(11:21):
But having said that, she came to me and let me know that she had had this accident. So just to give a bit of context around it, we had just shifted into a new home. There were so many coincidences and things leading up to it. So we'd only shifted in that weekend. Prior to her accident, we were supposed to shift the
following weekend, and so she had just phoned me minutes prior to her accident to say, Hey, mama, I am just leaving Napier now. So I didn't even realize she was driving, but she said, I'll meet up with you. Oh, no, I phoned her, sorry, she didn't phone me. I phoned her and because I was running late, so I wanted to
know where to meet her for dinner. So she phoned me. Gosh. So I phoned her, let's get the story straight. And we had this really brief but beautiful conversation, and she was so excited because she'd just set up her whole entire bedroom and it looked fantastic.
(12:28):
So she said, go check it out and I'll meet up with you soon. And then I knew when she didn't come home, I just had this overwhelming feeling that something was wrong. And I walked into the kitchen and I looked at the clock and I went, where are you baby girl? And my instinct was to hop into my car and go
and look for her. However, I didn't know which way she would be coming home. And so I tried calling her, and then I tried calling her friend who I knew had towels phone in her phone, so she would know where Tara was, and she didn't pick up. So I left her a message and I was crying. So I had all this knowing, and I don't cry very easily, but I just knew something dreadful had happened. And so then I
phoned the police and they put me on hold, and then I got sent the location of her vehicle by her friend.
(13:34):
So I told the police that and it went very silent. And then they said, look, there has been an accident. We've close road off. We'll get back to you. And I went like, oh, you just stay where you are. And I went like, heck, this is my girl. This is my life. I'm going to look for her. So I phoned the hospital thinking if an ambulance had been called for, they would be expecting an ambulance. And they turly told me no. So
then I went on to Google, and it was Google that within the hour was a reporting with the headline, a fatality between a truck and a car, and found and road. Now, you didn't have to be a rocket scientist to know that if my girl was up against a truck, then she was likely to be the fatality.
(14:34):
So of course I just went, no, no, no, no, no. But she was also giving me signs, like checking off a checklist saying, I've done everything I need to do here, mama. And I was going, no, we were just getting to the good stuff. No. And then she was just sending me all sorts of signs. So one of the beautiful things was
that she filled my heart with so much love, and I remember being cocooned in this love for six months easily because she wanted me to be able to get through this. So I knew right from the get go that this was
something that was a whole different experience on a whole different level.
Julia Marie (15:28):
Well, it seems that you were correct that she was an old soul, and certainly the two of you must have been together in other lifetimes to have had such a strong bond for her to be able to make that kind of a connection immediately after passing or dropping her density. However you want to look at that.
Helen Morris (15:53):
I know, because yeah, as soon as she transitioned, she knew to come to me. And I've always been told, when you cross your two fingers together, that's what people identify. Tarla myself as where two souls linked so strongly together. And I believe that was a connection,
Julia Marie (16:14):
Having her make that connection that quickly after the event had to have changed your perspective on life and maybe the grieving process as well.
Helen Morris (16:30):
Absolutely. Absolutely. So how that developed was that I learned to trust that there was something bigger to all of this. And so you can't ignore the grief. There's no way. I mean, this was my heart and life, and she was no longer with me, but I could hear her, and she was sending me signs all of the time. And so whenever I started to get really
(17:08):
Dark, going to that space where I thought, how can I live without you? She would say, well, you've got five minutes, so go have a pity party and then pull yourself out of it because I am not letting you go down there. And so she would distract me with things like direct me to, we've got this beautiful psychic medium
here in New Zealand, Calvin Crookshank, who has also done a lot of work overseas, and I used to pick up one of his books, soul Secrets, and open a page and I'll go, okay, so what do I need to know today? And
what that did was it helped me acknowledge the pain that I was feeling, but then balance it out again, lift myself out of it again. So I was on this rollercoaster of going in and out of it, and I just, I say trust a lot, but I did trust this process.
(18:11):
I just knew there was something bigger and just to keep, and she was my teaching me left, right, and center how to navigate this. And I didn't take any medications. I didn't even go to any, oh, I did have a counselor that I went and spoke to a couple of times who I'd sent Tau to years and years earlier when she was about 14. And I'd also been to her myself. T was having a bit of a rough spot. So this lady knew both
of us, and it was more just to be able to speak out what I was feeling, because it sounded a bit crazy to people.
(18:57):
How can you be coping with this? Well when you've just lost the most precious person in your life and why are you thinking what you're thinking? And it was just like, I think the biggest thing I did was I shed the masks. I remember a day to distinctly standing outside, I was living on a beautiful property. I was
outside in the sunshine and I said, I don't care anymore what people think about me and how I do things. I don't care anymore. I'd spent my life worried about what people thought and what they would think about how I did things. And so this was a huge release, a huge freedom, and really that was a turning point,
enabling me to just open my world up into energy healing, into spirituality, into all of that rich good stuff.
Julia Marie (20:11):
Now let's take a little detour. You mentioned energy healing. How did that happen?
Helen Morris (20:18):
So I was doing a four and a half hour drive to my favorite beach, which has just got the most beautiful healing energy. And I used to love just to go and spend time there just to on my own, mostly just process grief. And I'd downloaded some random podcasts to listen to. And one of them was Bradley Nelson
talking about the emotion code, and he had a brick and mortar chiropractic business. Yeah, I was going to say acupuncture, but it was chiropractic. And he was talking about learning that a lot of people's illnesses stemmed from energies, from emotions that they had lodged within their body. And the longer they had
done this, the more intense the pain or whatever disease was manifesting, and he would use muscle testing to determine what those emotions were. And so this fascinated me, so I listened to it all again, and then he had a free download where you could download what he was talking about and teach yourself
how to muscle test and start releasing these emotions from you.
(21:41):
Now, of course, I'd had those chronic illnesses, but a lot of people hadn't dealt with the emotional aspects of those. So I still had a lot of those lodged within me. And my beautiful girl was saying, mama, we're going to deal with not only the grief, we're going to deal with everything else as well. So you're in for a
ride. And so I taught myself to muscle test and just used my fingers and a pendulum. I had a necklace I started with, and then I progressed to just muscle testing with my fingers to get a yes or no answer and
direct me to where I needed to go and what emotions were it was directing me to. And then I would release them from my governing meridian, and just with that intention, placing that intention, I would release them. Wow. So after several days of doing this, I was walking on the beach and I honestly had
never felt a sense of peace and calm and strength in my life ever, ever before.
(22:50):
I felt like a different person, and I suddenly understood what it meant to be peaceful and calm. I had been working in overdrive so so much of my life, and I take myself out of fight and flight and wow, it was just magical. So of course you get those wins and you just keep going. So I decided I wanted to know more
about this. I actually flew to Utah to a conference where Dr. Bradley Nelson was teaching people about not only the emotion code, but the body code as well, which then dealt with all the energetic bodies as well as all the different systems, the acupuncture system, the various toxins within your body, and that
just ramped it up a whole new level. So now I had all these beautiful energy tools at my disposal because I chose to become certified in both, and they were very, very life-changing, but not only in how they made me feel, but that knowledge that everything you experience, that you attach emotions to, that you
don't process and deal with, get lodged within your body, and you just keep attracting more of that. Then once you release those, you are actually rebalancing and realigning your whole body yourself. So the healing is coming from within, and that is so, so powerful.
Julia Marie (24:34):
Well, physician heal thyself, doesn't it say somewhere?
Helen Morris (24:38):
Yes, it does. Indeed. We are
Julia Marie (24:40):
Our own doctor. We read this stuff, but we don't understand what that actually means.
Helen Morris (24:45):
Yes. And it's not until something dramatic happens that you're forced into the corner where you have to
van think, how am I going to get out of this corner? And often that's when people have those breakthroughs.
Julia Marie (25:00):
Well, that's our time for today. This was part one of my conversation with Helen Morris, host of the beautiful Site of Grief podcast. Stay tuned next time for the rest of her story. Thank you for continuing to support this podcast with your downloads and subscriptions. If you benefited from this episode, please
share the link with two other people so that together we can bring more light to this world. If you want to connect with a loved one on the other side, please go to my website, Julia Marie, us, and click the book now button on the homepage. And now here's a quote for you to ponder as you go about your day. Grief is love, with no place to go. Karen Gibbs